ego! Part I was all about the what and the why of the ego we all have. Part II is how to live and play nice with IT!
The first step in playing nice with our egos is realizing it is part of us, but not us. Ego is not who or what we are! Truly we are Spiritual beings living a human experience and only have forgotten that fact, because the ego we acquired has hidden it from us. Hiding our true selves from us is the ego’s main mission and once that is realized it will start losing its grip and slowly fade into the background.
The trick or secret to making the ego fade away is the consistency of being aware as soon as possible when it acts up, which it does a lot and very subtly sometimes. Luckily, we all come with a PGS – Personal Guidance System – built in… our emotions’ feelings. Sometimes the guidance is a pleasant reminder to check your course and other times it will punch you in the face to let you know you are not on the right course. This is where consistency plays a big role in keeping you from getting punched. You just have to be aware early enough of the pleasant reminders and adjust your attitude immediately to prevent from getting to far out of whack or punched! Anytime you are not feeling some form of love of yourself or anyone else, that is ego… Also having a negative thought is the ego and this is where it’s most effective to catch it before it gets out of hand.
When a negative thought suddenly appears in your head, just being aware of it and knowing it’s not you, but the phantom self talking, weakens it. The ego only has power when you believe you are the cause of the thoughts. When we don’t blame ourselves for the negative thoughts we are having and then combine that with not blaming anyone else for what they are saying to us, life becomes enjoyable to live. Now I know what you are thinking, if no one is to blame, then who is responsible? We are all in a way responsible. There are consequences for all our our actions. But it is only our own actions for which we are responsible.
What anyone else says or does is theirs to deal with, not ours to take personally, and better not to. Negativity from anybody is purely a reflection of what’s going on in side of them. If they knew how not to be negative, they wouldn’t be!
We all have our own lives to live and the best thing we can all do, to live it well, is to consistently become aware of what the ego is saying to us, smile at it, let it be and re-focus on something that we feel good about.