Happiness often begins with first being a little uncomfortable.
Whenever you’re in a situation that feels uncomfortable to you, that feeling is coming from one of two places: either your soul communicating to you or your ego self communicating at you.
There are three general reasons why you would feel uncomfortable. The first is the normal human response to danger… fire is hot, look both ways before crossing the street, don’t trust this person, etc.
The second is from the ego self, which stems from what I call false fear, which is a fear of something that is not true. This false fear mostly arises when we are assuming. When we assume, we usually assume the worst about some situation or person. Have you noticed 9 times out of 9 we are wrong?! Simple fix… stop assuming anything about anything!
The third type of discomfort also comes from our ego and is another type of false fear. It arises when we want to do something healthy for ourselves — physically, emotionally or spiritually.
Example: you want to work out to get in shape & lose weight, so you start thinking about how you really need to do so and decide you are going to start today. Then, the ego voice says, “You didn’t sleep well enough last night, so you probably won’t have a good workout. Why not wait until tomorrow?” That tomorrow turns into next week, next week into next month, and now that ego voice says, “You are too out of shape to work out; it will be too difficult; it’s much easier to lift the phone and order a pizza, followed by a big bowl of ice cream!”
If you are not comfortable with a little un-comfortableness when it first appears, it can spiral out of control! The key is to determine what kind of discomfort you are feeling as soon as it arises.
The first kind is legitimate and pre-programmed. We use to keep ourselves safe; that one is obvious.
The second stems from assuming and we know now that assuming makes no sense.
The third one is a little tricky but easy to overcome, if you catch it as soon as the un-comfortablness arises. Once you do, you just have to determine what it stems from. If it is something that is good for you, like exercising, eating healthier, reading, spending more time with loved ones, etc., then you should now see clearly that the tiny bit of un-comfortableness is well worth the payoff!
Funny thing about starting something new or making changes to something old — it always seems harder at first and then, after actually following through with the changes, you soon realize how easy it really is. Secret to living a happy comfortable life… notice when the ego is talking, ignore it and move forward with what feels right! Follow your heart/gut/soul/spirit/God, whatever you call that indescribable good feeling/intuition we all have. “It” will never let you down!